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Comprehensive Guide to Conversation Starters for 6-18 Year Olds: By the Kingdom Empowerment Inc. Team

Engaging in meaningful conversations with children and teenagers can be both rewarding and challenging. This comprehensive guide is designed to provide parents, educators, and mentors with effective conversation starters tailored to different age groups, ensuring you can connect deeply with the young individuals in your life. Whether you're trying to break the ice, build trust, or foster open communication, these conversation starters are here to help.

Table of Contents

  1. Introduction

  2. Ages 6-8

  • Getting to Know Them

  • Interests and Hobbies

  • School and Friends

  • Family and Home Life

  1. Ages 9-11

  • Developing Personal Interests

  • Social Interactions

  • School Experiences

  • Family Dynamics

  1. Ages 12-14

  • Identity and Self-Expression

  • Friendships and Social Life

  • Academic Life

  • Future Aspirations

  1. Ages 15-18

  • Personal Growth and Identity

  • Relationships and Social Dynamics

  • Academic and Career Goals

  • Current Events and Worldview

  1. Conclusion


Conversations are the foundation of healthy relationships and effective communication. For children and teenagers, talking with trusted adults can provide support, guidance, and a sense of belonging. However, knowing how to start these conversations and what topics to bring up can be daunting. This guide offers age-appropriate conversation starters that cater to the developmental stages and interests of 6-18-year-olds.

Ages 6-8

Children in this age group are curious, imaginative, and eager to share their thoughts. They are developing their communication skills and starting to understand the world around them.

Getting to Know Them

  1. What's your favorite thing to do at recess?

  2. If you could have any animal as a pet, which one would you choose and why?

  3. What's the best thing about being six/seven/eight years old?

  4. If you could have a superpower, what would it be and how would you use it?

  5. What makes you laugh the most?

Interests and Hobbies

  1. What are your favorite games to play?

  2. Do you like drawing or painting? What do you like to draw or paint the most?

  3. What's your favorite story or book? Why do you like it?

  4. Do you enjoy singing or dancing? Can you show me your favorite dance move?

  5. What kinds of things do you like to build with blocks or Legos?

School and Friends

  1. Who's your best friend at school and what do you like to do together?

  2. What’s your favorite subject in school? Why do you like it?

  3. Do you have any funny stories from school?

  4. What's something new you learned at school this week?

  5. If you could be the teacher for a day, what would you teach your class?

Family and Home Life

  1. What's your favorite thing to do with your family?

  2. Do you have any brothers or sisters? What do you like to do with them?

  3. What's your favorite meal that someone in your family makes?

  4. Do you have a special place at home where you like to play or relax?

  5. What’s the most fun thing you’ve ever done with your family?

Ages 9-11

Children in this age group are becoming more independent and developing their own interests. They are also starting to form stronger social connections and understand more complex concepts.

Developing Personal Interests

  1. What hobbies or activities do you enjoy the most?

  2. If you could learn any new skill, what would it be?

  3. What kind of music do you like? Do you have a favorite song or band?

  4. Do you like reading? What’s the best book you’ve read recently?

  5. What kind of movies or TV shows do you enjoy watching?

Social Interactions

  1. Who are your closest friends, and what do you like to do together?

  2. What do you think makes someone a good friend?

  3. Have you ever helped a friend with a problem? How did you do it?

  4. What qualities do you admire in your friends?

  5. Have you ever had to resolve a disagreement with a friend? How did you handle it?

School Experiences

  1. What’s your favorite and least favorite subject in school? Why?

  2. Do you participate in any clubs or sports at school? What do you like about them?

  3. Have you ever had a project or assignment that you were really proud of? What was it?

  4. What do you like most about your teacher(s)?

  5. If you could change one thing about your school, what would it be?

Family Dynamics

  1. What’s your favorite family tradition or holiday?

  2. Do you have any family rules that you think are important?

  3. What’s something special about your family that makes you proud?

  4. Do you ever help with chores around the house? What’s your favorite chore to do?

  5. What do you like to do for fun with your family on weekends?

Ages 12-14

Pre-teens and early teenagers are exploring their identities, forming more complex social relationships, and dealing with new academic challenges. Conversations with them can delve into deeper topics and help them navigate this transitional phase.

Identity and Self-Expression

  1. What are some things you’re really passionate about?

  2. Do you have any role models? Who are they and why do you look up to them?

  3. What do you think makes you unique?

  4. How do you express yourself creatively? (e.g., writing, art, music)

  5. What goals or dreams do you have for the future?

Friendships and Social Life

  1. How do you stay connected with your friends?

  2. What qualities do you value most in a friend?

  3. Have you ever felt peer pressure? How did you deal with it?

  4. What’s the most fun thing you’ve done with your friends recently?

  5. How do you handle conflicts or disagreements with friends?

Academic Life

  1. What subjects do you find the most interesting and why?

  2. Do you have a favorite teacher? What do you like about them?

  3. How do you stay organized with your schoolwork and assignments?

  4. Have you thought about what you might want to study in high school or college?

  5. What’s a school project or activity you’ve enjoyed the most?

Future Aspirations

  1. What career(s) are you interested in? Why?

  2. Do you have any plans or goals for high school?

  3. What do you hope to achieve in the next few years?

  4. How do you think you can make a positive impact in your community?

  5. What skills do you think are important for your future goals?

Ages 15-18

Teenagers are preparing for adulthood, making significant life decisions, and forming their own perspectives on the world. Conversations with them can be more nuanced and in-depth, covering a wide range of topics.

Personal Growth and Identity

  1. What are some personal achievements you’re proud of?

  2. How do you define success for yourself?

  3. What are your strengths and how do you use them in your daily life?

  4. How do you cope with stress or challenges?

  5. What values are most important to you?

Relationships and Social Dynamics

  1. How do you balance your social life with your responsibilities?

  2. What have you learned from your friendships?

  3. How do you handle difficult conversations or conflicts with others?

  4. What do you think are the key elements of a healthy relationship?

  5. How do you support your friends and how do they support you?

Academic and Career Goals

  1. What subjects or fields are you most interested in pursuing?

  2. Have you thought about what colleges or vocational programs you might want to attend?

  3. What steps are you taking to prepare for your future career?

  4. How do you manage your time between school, work, and other activities?

  5. What advice would you give to someone younger about preparing for high school or college?

Current Events and Worldview

  1. What are your thoughts on a recent news story or event?

  2. How do you stay informed about what’s happening in the world?

  3. What issues or causes are you passionate about?

  4. How do you think young people can make a difference in their communities or the world?

  5. What changes would you like to see in the world, and how do you think they can be achieved?


Having meaningful conversations with children and teenagers not only helps in building strong relationships but also plays a crucial role in their development. By using these conversation starters tailored to different age groups, you can foster open communication, show your interest in their lives, and support their growth. Remember, the key is to listen actively, be empathetic, and create a safe space for them to express themselves.

Thank you for reading this comprehensive guide from the Kingdom Empowerment Inc. Team. We hope these conversation starters help you connect more deeply with the young individuals in your life, nurturing their growth and development.

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